You had to rent a house with a stranger or a close friend and as a result realize that you can not live together? Living with others can be difficult, especially when people are used to different living conditions. Most people, at some point, have to learn to get along with their roommates. Read on to learn how to share your living space and live in harmony with your roommate.
Find a good neighbor. Do not rush to make a decision based on the friendliness of the other person. Try to learn more about his daily habits and compare them with yours:
What is the history of renting?
Do they have enough money to pay utility bills and rent?
Wake up early or owls?
What temperature is considered acceptable for them?
How often do you watch TV?
What about the noise level (loud TV or quiet reading)?
Political and religious views?
If delayed, when do you need to start worrying? Wait until the morning and then make a couple of calls or start a search operation after 15 minutes of absence?
What can they do around the house? Perhaps if what they like to do, you do not really like, then you can do your any classes and not worry about those that you do not like.
Are they talking about what’s in their hearts, or are they quiet?
They’re worried about smells? You may need to change cleaning products and remove your running shoes after training.
What about allergies? (e.g. nuts, perfume, milk, flour, cigarette smoke)
Will this person maintain cleanliness? Does he / she understand that dishes should be washed and garbage taken out?
What about Smoking or something?
What kind of character does this man have? Extrovert or introvert?
Do they like jewelry or not? What style of jewelry do they prefer?
What kind of music and TV shows do they like? And most importantly, do they like loud music or roaring TV?
Don’t hide your expectations. Set boundaries and stick to them. This includes food, clothing, activities, loud activity, use of shower/toilet/kitchen and others, parties, cleaning and so on.
Respect each other’s privacy and personal space. This is especially important if you live in a small room. Make a clear distinction between your things. Always ask before you take someone else’s thing. Take care of the borrowed things.
Keep your word. If you said you’d clean the kitchen, pay the bills, or call the landlord to fix something, keep your word.
Be prepared to compromise. Not all people share your lifestyle. You can’t ask your neighbor to change unless you’re trying to.
Get behind you. This does not mean that you need to be clean, but do not leave dirty dishes for a few days, do not throw clothes in the hall, do not collect a bunch of dirty linen in the room, especially if you share it with a neighbor. Try to agree on the minimum cleanliness that you both will try to maintain.
Respect your neighbor’s sleep time. If you are an owl, then behave quietly and turn off the light when your neighbor goes to bed so as not to disturb him. If you go to bed early, do not get annoyed at your neighbor because of his schedule, but at the same time, try to find a way to sleep peacefully. The same goes for the morning hours.
Spend time with your neighbor. Say Hello and bye, ask about business and show interest in his life. By recognizing a person, you will be able to understand his point of view more easily, and he will also be able to understand you better. This way it will be easier for you to solve common problems. Try to make time for General classes at least once a week. Cook dinner together, watch a movie and so on. Do something nice for your neighbor – make his/her bed, cook cookies or offer a ride if he does not have a car.
Be flexible. Know what’s going on in your neighbor’s life, and behave accordingly. If your neighbor is scheduled test, then behave quietly and do not interfere. If your neighbor is very busy and worried about work, then give him time and space to relax.
Communicate. As in any relationship, living together requires a lot of work. Communication is key to a good long-term relationship and a short-term relationship too. If there is a problem, it is best to talk about it immediately than ignore it and leave it for later. If you are unable to communicate normally and feel constant tension between you and your neighbor, then find a new neighbor. It’s not worth your nerves. Maybe living apart will make you feel better about each other.
Share. Or decide what you can share. Decide what foods in the fridge can be shared and what not. If you borrowed something, tell your neighbor about it and (if there is such a need) replace it.
Separate duties. If your neighbor is a good cook and you are not, then let him cook and wash the dishes yourself. It would be a good idea to set a schedule whose turn it is to wash the bathroom or take out the trash, and when.
Make sure your neighbor understands compromise and mutual respect. Paying rent is not enough to be a good neighbor. Respect each other’s personal space, as well as furniture, dishes, food and so on.
Don’t create too strict rules. Life is too short – don’t worry about the little things. Dirty Windows do not disturb anyone. A broken plate is not a reason to quarrel.
Remember, when you find a neighbor, first of all – it is a contract of cohabitation, and the second-it is friendship. When you rent a room, share a room or own a house, always remember that your neighbor needs a place to stay as well as you need their money. The moment you don’t need a neighbor, the neighbor doesn’t need a place to stay, or you both don’t need something equally important for both of you, the contract disappears. The fact that you accept money from someone for housing is just as important as the need for another person for that housing. If you find the best candidate, then choose him. If you don’t like the place where you live, you move out and find another one.
Control your noise level. Use headphones to listen to music and talk on the phone in another room. If you are going to make noise, ask your neighbor in advance.
Some people use a “cohabitation agreement” in which you specify certain rules for living together. So you always know what to expect and what rules to follow. Collect signatures and keep the document handy.
Remember, not everyone gets along with each other, no matter how friendly you were.
Don’t yell or shout at your neighbor. If it’s a friend, you can ruin your friendship. Remember, most people will not be able to treat you with kindness and understanding and will not respond in the best way to your anger or anger, and, most often, you will not achieve the desired results and even worsen the situation.
Be careful borrowing money. Small bags will not be a problem, but do not forget.
Even if you need to be flexible and understanding, don’t let your neighbor ignore you. Stand your ground.
Don’t quibble. This is the right way to a bad relationship.