Each person is different, but research has found some major differences between men and women. Keep in mind that this information is generalised and cannot be applied to everyone.
Men have more developed visual susceptibility. Vision is one of the strongest human senses, and cerebral processing of what is seen takes most of the day. Men are more likely than women to respond to visual cues. For example, men prefer to look at the map to understand the direction rather than listen to the instructions, they also often claim that they need to look at the problem to fix anything. Try not to get annoyed and take it as an innate uncontrollable trait.
Don’t get too offended if he looks at other women. Because of its propensity to visual susceptibility guy will more often look at attractive people. Don’t make up nonexistent things, even if he looks at a woman in a low-cut blouse, that doesn’t mean he automatically wants to sleep with her. Such a manifestation is usually harmless and is only a reflex, not a sign of your doomed relationship.
Men tend the spirit of competition. Studies have shown that men are more likely than women to take jobs that are competitive with colleagues, and you probably know from personal experience that men tend to be more interested in sports (participation or viewing). Many men feel satisfaction from domination over others. If you play against him, do not be surprised if the mood of a man suddenly becomes tense and ruthless when he starts to lose. Take it for granted and move on.
Encourage his competitive hobby. Note that there are many typically male Hobbies focused on rivalry, such as games, hunting, watching or playing sports, and extreme sports. Since the victory of rivals is very important for men, support activities that can bring your boyfriend this kind of satisfaction in a relatively safe way.
Men and women appreciate different parts of the conversation. Studies show that this trend begins in childhood, when young girls share secrets and discuss problems, and boys share common occupations and interests. If you expect that your boyfriend or a man will be a good companion for you, just like a girlfriend, you will be surprised, men do not build strong relationships on conversations and much more often women change the topic. In addition, men do not pay as much attention to eye contact as women do. The man’s eyes during the conversation can wander and inspect nearby objects.
Do not punish him for this and do not complain that he never listens to you, and choose the right tactics. If you want to discuss a really important topic with him, do it so that he is not lost in conjecture. Say,”it’s important to me that we talk about this, and it would mean a lot to me if you would listen to me carefully.” If you are important to him, he will make an extra effort to participate in the conversation at your level.
Be prepared to hear the decision. Another side effect is that men tend to focus on fixing the problem. If you just want a man to sympathize with you and give confidence, then say it at the beginning of the conversation. Remember, he’s trying to help you find a solution because he cares about you, and he thinks that’s what people do during the conversation, not because he’s trying to control you.
Men can’t always identify emotions as quickly as women. Remember the old stereotype of a husband who has no idea what he did to piss off his wife. It’s possible that he’s not just intentionally ignorant, but really doesn’t understand why she’s upset, and whether she’s upset at all. Women have a much more developed limbic system, so they better classify and understand emotions, which was useful in ancient cultures when women were responsible for maintaining social connections. Men lag behind women in studies of gender differences and emotional control.
Don’t expect him to read your mind. If you are upset because of a man, tell him about it as calmly and judiciously as possible. Once he learns how you feel, he will be able to take action to solve the problem. If you don’t tell him anything, you can’t expect him to understand your hints.
Give him space. Men do not have the habit of discussing their problems with friends at length, so, as a rule, they try to solve their problems on their own. If a man goes into himself when you try to discuss his personal problems, step back and give him the opportunity to understand himself. Most men will let you know if they want to discuss the problem.
You can search for the following additional information on the Internet about more specific interactions with men.
Learn to understand the male ego. Perhaps it is different from yours much more than you think.
Learn how to give a man space. This can greatly improve your relationship in the long run.
Study the behavior of men in long-term relationships.
Learn how to help your boyfriend get through depression.
Improve your relationship with your boyfriend.
Remember that the information in this article is based on generalizations. Perhaps not everything is applicable to your familiar men